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Remember all Saints
Grief is one of the universal human experiences, part of everyone’s life. We grieve because we love. Nothing on this earth lasts forever, but the journey of grief is a holy one. God is present to bless us as we grieve.(From the Grief On The Way 2020 Lenten series)

St. Thomas, like all faith communities, has always had shared practices to help the grieving. Grieving is a familiar path and we’ve pitched in together to help one another travel the journey of grief. We spoke gently to the grieving. We brought food. We worshiped together at a funeral or memorial service.  In whatever way we could, we embraced one another.

And then – all at once – our congregation’s practice of shared journey came up against the strange realities of life with COVID-19.

How do we grieve together in this new situation?
How do we comfort one another? What should we say? What can we do?
How do we remember?
How do we ourselves find solace?

This web page is a place to share our experiences of grieving. Members and friends of St. Thomas are invited to share the readings, music, prayers, art, and memories that have brought you consolation when grief has entered your life. What’s been helpful or meaningful for you? Please explore this page to see what has been shared so far.

Go directly to Resources for people on the journey of grief
Go directly to Resources for their friends and companions
Go directly to Remembering People

Jan Sinn and Pamela Smith are the collection points for this shared project. If you have something to contribute or wish to comment, please contact one of them – you can find their contact information in the church directory.

Resources for people on the journey of grief –

Grief – A Normal and Natural Response to Loss (Shared by Jan Sinn)

Along the Way Newsletter – Winter 2021 –  The IU Health Hospice Bereavement Services Newsletter

IU Health Hospice Bereavement Support Flyer

IU Health Community Support Calendar for April, 2021 with information on their bereavement support groups.

Epitaph (Shared by Karen Rohlfing)

The Arrival – A reflection to help process loss (Written and shared by Karen Rohlfing)

I Heard Your Voice in the Wind (Shared by Jan Sinn)

To Those I Love and Those Who Love Me  (Shared by the Bush family in Judy’s memorial service bulletin)

When Death Draws Near (Shared by Doug Bauder. who prayed this with Bob the day before his death.)

Grief Comes in Waves, (Shared by Kim Filiatrault, with a reflection on grieving her father’s death.)

Grief and Learning a New Emotion, Gene and Gayl Laughman’s Grief On the Way reflection for March 11 2020.

Life in the Desert, Wendy Vandersee’s Grief on the Way meditation for March 19, 2020.

Gratitude and Grief, Doug Bauder’s Grief on the Way reflection for Wednesday, March 25. Doug has also asked us to share this performance of the 23rd Psalm.

Five Poets on Grieving, Pamela Smith’s short poetry reading for Grief On the Way. A pdf of links to her collection of poems about grief is here.

Surviving the First Year of Grief (Shared by Jan Sinn)

O God Beyond All Praising, sung by the Georgia Boy Choir (Shared by Karen Rohlfing)
Karen writes: Listen especially to the second stanza that says,
“The flower of earthly splendor in time must surely die,
Its fragile bloom surrender to you, the Lord most high;
but hidden from all nature the eternal seed is sown-
though small in mortal stature, to heaven’s garden grown:
for Christ, your gift from heaven,from death has set us free,
and we through him are given the final victory.”

The Gathering of Spirits, a song by Carrie Newcomer (shared by Pamela Smith)
Full lyrics are here.
Let it go my love my truest, let it sail on silver wings,
Life’s a twinkling that’s for certain, but it’s such a fine thing.
There’s a gathering of spirits, there’s a festival of friends,
And we’ll take up where we left off when we all meet again.

Resources for their friends and companions

Crowdsourcing Consolation a collection of your ideas for practices of consolation during COVID-19 (Collected and shared by Pamela Smith)

The Eight Best Things You Can Say to Someone Who Is Grieving (Shared by Jan Sinn)

The Eight Worst Things You Can Say to Someone Who Is Grieving (Shared by Jan Sinn)

On Being has run several programs on Ambiguous Loss – how we deal, or don’t deal, on loss without closure. (Shared by Karen Rohlfing)
Navigating Loss Without Closure
It’s really settling in now, the losses large and small

We want grief fo follow a timeline. It doesn’t. “Cultural stories about grief promise it gets better with time. This is largely true, but grief can also set its own messy course—feeling delayed, surging unexpectedly, or lasting too long.” (Shared by Jan Sinn)

Kris Pohlman Stewart suggests these four books to help talk with children about death –
Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children by Brian Mellonie, (shared by Kris Pohlman Stewart)
The Memory Box: A Book about Grief by Joanna Rowland (Shared by Kris Pohlman Stewart)
One Wave at a Time: A Story about Grief and Healing by Holly Thompson
(Shared by Kris Pohlman Stewart)
The Invisible String by Patrice Karst (Shared by Kris Pohlman Stewart)

A list of books on grief and healing suggested by IU Hospice. This is especially helpful with suggesting books on grieving for children and teens.

Remembering People

The Texture of Grief was a collaborative art project offered by the Intergenerational Fiber Arts Group. Everyone was invited to choose a rag from the basket and weave it into this frame loom in the narthex as a way of showing that individual grief is part of the tapestry of our common life at St. Thomas. We’ve kept on adding strands to the loom to remember, not only our congregation’s members as they pass, but also the deaths of those who are connected to us friendship or family ties: Mike’s dad, Karen’s niece, Jonathan’s dad, and others. They are all part of the texture of grief in this strange season.

Robert EllisRobert Meyer Ellis
February 20, 133 – January 20, 2021

Robert Mayer Ellis of Bedford (formerly of Beech Grove and Bloomington), 87, passed away peacefully on January 20, 2021. Bob was born on February 20, 1933, in Lincoln, Illinois. He was the second son of William Spotswood Ellis II and Mildred Mayer Ellis. Bob was raised in a happy home by his uncle and aunt, Hardin and Irma Ellis. Bob married his dream girl, Janet Lee Morse, on June 10, 1956, and Janet survives him.

Bob graduated from Atlanta (Illinois) High School in 1951 and completed his Bachelor of Science Degree at Oberlin College in 1955. He then entered the U.S. Army, serving as a medic from 1955-1958. Upon his discharge, Bob began a distinguished career as a biochemist at Eli Lilly and Company in Indianapolis. He toiled tirelessly at Lilly for 35 years, retiring in 1993. While at Lilly, Bob worked on many high-profile projects, including his breakthrough research in developing the first artificial insulin, which has led to life-saving treatments for millions of people. Bob was quietly and rightfully proud of the impact his work has had on diabetics around the world over the last 60 years.

Bob was even more proud of his family. He and Janet raised three wonderful daughters who survive him: Ruth Bryant (Mike) of Lee’s Summit, Missouri; Lynn Titche (Charlie) of Bedford; and Heather Kostella (Matt) of Verona, Pennsylvania. Dad was extremely honored that his daughters chose science and education as their life pursuits. His constant encouragement and unending support of his children shaped his daughters’ lives (and their families’) immeasurably. Bob was even more gratified that his girls have carried on his and Mom’s Christian values and lifestyle. Dad’s devotion to his faith and dedication to service in God’s name will affect lives long after his passing. Dad also leaves six grandchildren who have been blessed by his loving ways: Dean, Amanda, James and Lauren Bryant; and, Miles and Isaac Titche.
Amateur inventor, lover of animals and nature, strategic mower of lawns and snow-plower to all in his neighborhood – Bob never said “no” to a friend, family member or someone in need. Bob was giving to all, caring and quick to help. Emblematic of his love for others was his long, kind porch conversation with a complete stranger while Bob was having a heart attack, unwilling to leave a down-and-out soul when his own life was in danger. Bob was a long-time member of both Bethany Lutheran Church in Indianapolis and St. Thomas Lutheran Church in Bloomington, Indiana. His beautiful tenor filled many a chapel with glorious tones.

A celebration of Bob’s life will be held at a later date, likely at his beloved second home, Lutheran Hills. Gifts in remembrance of Bob may be offered to Lutheran Outdoor Ministries (LOMIK), the Parkinson’s Foundation, or Fellowship Of Christian Athletes.

Condolences may be shared online on Bob’s memory wall.

John A. ‘Jack’ Sturrock
January 26, 1935 – December 12, 2020

John Alexander Sturrock was received in to the loving arms of God on Saturday, December 12, 2020. John, or Jack as his friends called him, was married for 65 years to the love of his life and high school sweetheart, Barbara. They spent every day singing, dancing and cruising around the world.

Jack is survived by his loving wife Barbara and children Scott (Debbie) Sturrock and Heather Mahoney, grandchildren Christine Spoolstra, (Evan) Ben Sturrock, Trey Mahoney, Taylor Mahoney, and Alec Mahoney, and by great-grandchildren Kellan Spoolstra and Haley Spoolstra.

Jack served in the United States Air Force as a pilot. He worked at Cape Canaveral through the 1960’s and helped land a man on the moon. He moved his family to Bloomington, Indiana in the 1970s where he worked at the CRANE Navy base developing the firing system for the Trident Missile Submarine. Jack loved to sing in the church choir and his distinctive voice could always be heard singing the bass. He also enjoyed barber shop quartet and was a member of SPEB-SQSA.

Jack lived and enjoyed life to the fullest, loving his family and serving his country and community. Jack will be greatly missed.

Alicia Marie Stewart
April 4, 1986 – September 17, 2020

Alicia Marie Stewart passed away on September 17, 2020. She was born on April 4, 1986 in Bloomington, Indiana, to Frank and Kristine Stewart. She was baptized and confirmed at St. Thomas Lutheran Church in Bloomington, Indiana. Alicia graduated from Bloomington High School South and earned degrees with high distinction and honors in Marketing, Legal Studies, International Business and French from the Kelly School of Business at Indiana University. She was also a member of the Mitte Business Honors Program. After graduation she worked for the Nielsen Company in Cincinnati, Ohio.

Alicia’s infectious laughter and sense of humor will be greatly missed by her family, friends, and anyone who was lucky enough to know her. She is survived by her mother, Kristine, the love of her life, Aaron Glatt, her brother, James Douglas Stewart, her sister Sarah Elizabeth Stewart, and her two nieces, Alexis Faye Tucker (Ronnie) and Taylor Renee Flick. She is also survived by her grandfather, Kenneth F. Pohlmann and her grandmother, DeLoris A. Stewart, as well as many cherished aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends.

Preceding her in death are her father, Frank Daniel Stewart Jr., her grandmother, Katharine M. Pohlmann, her grandfather, Frank D. Stewart Sr., her uncle Karl F. Pohlmann and her cousin Timothy D. Pohlmann. Arrangements are being handled by Geo. H. Rohde & Son Funeral Home in Cincinnati, Ohio. A service celebrating her life will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests that memorials be made in her name to Lutheran World Relief at

Jane Warner’s Obituary

Judy Bush’s obituary
Judy’s Memorial Service
The service bulletin for Judy’s Memorial Service

Bob Cutter’s obituary

Kay Isaacson’s obituary